Showing posts from June, 2019

A Treatise on Closets

"Therefore, let there be beauty and strength, power and compassion, honor and humility, mirth and reverence within you.” ― Doreen Valiente, Charge of the Goddess

Coming out of the closet is nearly a daily occurrence for me. Doctors, cashiers, the nice lady in the craft aisle asking me and my husband which ribbon might look best for her art project... the assumption is my husband is my brother, or my roommate, or a friend. My interest in engaging with them depends on how much I want to invest of my emotional labor in that moment to correct and educate. LGBTQIA folks and people of marginalized identities know what it's like to be "straight acting" or to code switch when they're in a space that they may not feel accepted or safe to be their authentic self.

For the past several weeks, I have been struggling with those feelings not with my sexuality, but with my faith. I eventually concluded that I wanted to share more of myself with others, particularly the friends, f…